28 Psychology says the cruelest thing about being raised by a narcissistic but charming parent isn’t anything they did at home — it’s the structural impossibility of being believed by anyone outside the house, and a child who learns early that the world will never see what they see grows into an adult who has stopped trying to be understood by people who weren’t there

Newark apartment complex bought for much less than prior value

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George Avalos @ Silicon Valley 1 place · 02/07/2106 01:28 EDT

An East Bay apartment complex has been bought at a price that's well below its prior value. Read more ›

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PG&E buys San Jose building to bolster South Bay operations

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George Avalos @ Silicon Valley 2 place · 02/07/2106 01:28 EDT

A PG&E Corp. unit has bought a San Jose building in a move to bolster the utility's South Bay operations. Read more ›

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Три архитектурных решения для multi-tenant B2B SaaS, о которых я пожалел, что не узнал раньше

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Isaev1980 @ Habr 1 place · today 06:18 EDT

Самая дорогая ошибка моего B2B SaaS имела ровно одну строчкуСамая дорогая ошибка моего B2B SaaS имела ровно одну строчку: TENANT_ID = “tenant-1” в config.py. Полтора дня поиска бага показали, почему multi-tenant архитектуру нужно закладывать с первого коммита. Разбор трёх архитектурных решений для multi-tenant SaaS в регулируемой отрасли — tenant_id helper, PostgreSQL EXCLUDE USING gist против double-booking, 152-ФЗ как код на FastAPI и SQLAlchemy. Читать далее Read more ›

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Очередная методичка разработки с LLM: работает только если ты разработчик

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okoloboga @ Habr 2 place · today 06:15 EDT

С 2024 года, когда LLM стали (плюс/минус) пригодны для генерации кода и решения рабочих задач, я начал тащить их в свои проекты. Сначала кусками: помочь с функцией, разобрать ошибку, прикинуть архитектуру, или вообще не соглашаться на проект. Очень быстро понял: если не будет в этом процессе норм и правил - будет только бардак и проекты я буду закрывать медленнее, чем если бы писал код руками. Модель уходит в дебри, забывает... Read more ›

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Adult children who feel almost nothing on routine calls with a parent — not love, not irritation, not connection, just dutiful neutrality — aren’t emotionally numb, they’re correctly registering that the relationship was never quite built, and the absence of feeling is the body’s honest report on a closeness that was assigned rather than developed

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Daniel Moran @ Silicon Canals 1 place · today 06:15 EDT

There is a particular emotional flavor that some adult children feel during their regular calls with a parent, and that very few of them ever describe out loud, because the feeling itself sounds, when stated plainly, like a kind of indictment. The flavor is not love. It is not warmth. It is not irritation, exactly. ... Read more Read more ›

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Я плохой программист, плохой менеджер и вообще недоэксперт в любой области

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vital_pavlenko @ Habr 3 place · today 06:09 EDT

Снова и снова возвращаюсь в одну и ту же точку. Мне становится скучно на работе в найме. Работаешь несколько лет в одной компании, меняешь команды и проекты в надежде, что что-то изменится. Не помогает — меняешь компанию и роль. Но потом все возвращается на тот же круг. Можно назвать это выгоранием, но это слишком широкое понятие. Я захотел копнуть чуть глубже. Читать далее Read more ›

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The iPhone Air shows why compact phones are still the better answer

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Vikhyaat Vivek @ Digital Trends 1 place · today 06:08 EDT

The iPhone Air is a clever answer to heavy flagship phones, but using one reminded me that thinness and lightness still don’t solve the real problem of a typical tall phone. Read more ›

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What Sam Altman's lawyer learned from RBG and driving a cab

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Jacob Shamsian @ Business Insider 1 place · today 06:03 EDT

William Savitt drove a cab before clerking for Ruth Bader Ginsburg and taking on Elon Musk in court. Here's his advice for young lawyers. Read more ›

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Ukraine’s new AI-guided laser burns holes in Shahed suicide drones in seconds from 3.1 miles away — also useful for demining operations, trailer-mounted Tryzub system is in final stages of testing

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Tom's Hardware 1 place · today 06:00 EDT

Ukraine has developed a mobile AI-powered anti-drone laser that can down lethal Shahed drones up to 3.1 miles away. Read more ›

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Last Tesla Model S and X Roll Off Production Line

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Mike Pearl @ Gizmodo 1 place · today 06:00 EDT

The quiet death of Tesla's high-end models marks the end of Tesla as a relatively ordinary car company. Read more ›

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5 Android phones you should buy instead of the Motorola Razr Fold

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Rita El Khoury @ Android Authority 1 place · today 06:00 EDT

Motorola's track record in book-style foldables has yet to be proven, so consider other options first. Read more ›

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How Handheld Translators Work and Why They’re Handy for Travel

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Christopher Null @ Wired 1 place · today 06:00 EDT

Your cell phone can handle basic language translation, but bespoke tools can offer a much more immersive experience. Read more ›

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История о том, как я тоже сделал ИИ-радио

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Stepik @ Habr · today 05:56 EDT

Сижу в гараже, слушаю свой музыкальный сервис и параллельно допиливаю его. Изучаю конкурентов и натыкаюсь на статью на Хабре от основателя Tunio.И тут меня буквально пробивает: боже мой, это же такой же солопренер, как и я. Он сделал практически такой же сервис. Меня захлестнула смесь разочарования и восхищения.Но чем глубже я копал, тем интереснее становилось. Мы пришли к очень похожим результатам совершенно разными путями. Автор Tunio выращивал сервис как pet-project... Read more ›

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Alibaba integrates Qwen AI with Taobao for end-to-end agentic shopping

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Cristian Dina @ The Next Web 1 place · today 05:53 EDT

The Qwen app gets access to Taobao and Tmall’s catalogue of more than 4 billion items, plus Alipay-native checkout, in what is the largest agentic-commerce launch yet from a Chinese platform. Alibaba is integrating its Qwen AI app with Taobao and Tmall, the company’s two largest consumer marketplaces, in what amounts to the most ambitious […] This story continues at The Next Web Read more ›

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Кто автор программы: разбираю каждую роль в команде с судебной практикой

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aveazazello @ Habr · today 05:52 EDT

Над любой серьёзной программой работает целая команда: фронтенд, бэкенд, дизайн, архитектура, тестирование, управление. Однако когда дело доходит до вопроса «кто автор?» юридический ответ и здравый смысл могут расходиться.По российскому праву автором программы для ЭВМ признаётся тот, кто внёс в неё личный творческий вклад (ст. 1228 ГК РФ). Звучит просто, но на практике — это десятки судебных споров о том, что считать творческим вкладом, а что нет.Разберём каждую роль в команде... Read more ›

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I'm a princess running a family office. Here's how I keep royal money alive.

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Madeline Berg @ Business Insider 2 place · today 05:47 EDT

Princess Jahnavi Kumari Mewar of India took over her family's investments at age 21. Here's how she modernized and grew their wealth. Read more ›

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An Amazon worker balanced her day job and side hustle without burning out. She got laid off and had a backup plan.

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Charissa Cheong @ Business Insider 3 place · today 05:47 EDT

A woman used a simple time management trick to develop a side hustle while working at Amazon. Read more ›

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Why The US Navy Never Flew The F-15 Eagle

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SlashGear 1 place · today 05:45 EDT

The F-15 Eagle is a legend of the skies, and it earned that reputation despite never flying for the U.S. Navy. Here's why the Navy opted against the F-15. Read more ›

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People in their 60s with no close friends didn’t lose those friendships through any failure of character — the friendships were structurally maintained by a workplace, a school run, a neighborhood, or a marriage, and when the structure ended the friendships ended with it, and what looks like a personal deficit is actually the silent collapse of an architecture nobody told them was holding their social life up

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Daniel Moran @ Silicon Canals 2 place · today 05:45 EDT

There is a strange thing that happens to a lot of people in their early sixties. They look around and notice, often for the first time, that they have very few close friends. The noticing is not always immediate. It builds slowly over a few years, in small moments. A weekend with no plans. A ... Read more Read more ›

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Почему у синьора 500k, а капитала всё ещё нет

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jakut_bmstu @ Habr · today 05:45 EDT

Ты можешь зарабатывать 300, 400, 500 тысяч рублей в месяц — но при этом, капитала нет, и если завтра все закончится, будет грустно.И да, кто-то скажет, я профессионал, я синьер/техлид я хорошо зарабатываю. Но ощущается ли ваш капитал, как система? Вы можете идеально выстроить архитектуру вашего проекта, иметь честный Tier IV по отказоустойчивости , но ваш капитал близок к этому? Ощущается ли он как система или наоборот, как набор "папочек"?Зачастую... Read more ›

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I’m 37 and I haven’t felt real joy in years, and it isn’t because I’m broken, it’s because I’ve been keeping everyone else okay for so long I forgot I was allowed to feel anything for myself

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Lachlan Brown @ Silicon Canals · 05/03/2026 06:15 EDT

The day I realized I'd become so good at managing everyone else's emotions that I'd completely forgotten how to feel my own was the day everything started to change. Read more ›

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Psychology says the adults who were raised with very little affection don’t grow up unable to love, they grow up suspicious of the love that finally arrives, and the warmth a partner offers them at thirty or forty often gets quietly held at arm’s length, not because they don’t want it, but because the body that didn’t learn how to receive affection at six is still trying to figure out the choreography at fifty

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Lachlan Brown @ Silicon Canals · 05/03/2026 06:30 EDT

The cruelest paradox of human connection: those who needed love most as children often spend their adult lives physically tensing up when it finally arrives, their bodies still protecting them from a danger that existed decades ago. Read more ›

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I’m 37 and I was raised in a house with almost no affection, and the hardest part isn’t missing it, it’s that I still don’t know how to receive it now that it’s finally being offered

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Lachlan Brown @ Silicon Canals · 05/03/2026 06:45 EDT

Despite decades of studying psychology and mindfulness, nothing prepared me for the moment my infant daughter reached for a hug and my body's first instinct was to freeze—not from lack of love, but because at 37, I'm still learning the language of physical affection that most people master in childhood. Read more ›

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People who can’t stop offering to help carry things, refill drinks, or load the dishwasher at someone else’s house aren’t well-raised, they grew up in homes where being useful was the price of being welcome

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Justin Brown @ Silicon Canals · 05/03/2026 08:19 EDT

Compulsive helpfulness at other people's homes often gets read as good manners. The pattern underneath is usually something else: a childhood lesson that welcome was contingent on being useful, automated decades later in someone else's kitchen. Read more ›

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Psychology says the people who thrive in high-pressure environments aren’t the most resilient — they’ve just built better systems for knowing when to stop

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Lachlan Brown @ Silicon Canals · 05/03/2026 09:00 EDT

The most successful people under pressure have discovered what psychology confirms: knowing exactly when to stop pushing isn't weakness — it's the sophisticated system that separates those who burn out from those who sustain peak performance for decades. Read more ›

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I noticed I have been saying I am tired for ten years when the more accurate word is unwitnessed, and tired was just the version of the truth that nobody would follow up on

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Justin Brown @ Silicon Canals · 05/03/2026 09:08 EDT

After a decade of defaulting to the word 'tired,' I realised it was never the truth — just the version of the truth nobody would follow up on. On emotional labour, the cost of vague vocabulary, and the word I was actually looking for. Read more ›

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I stopped offering my opinion in family group chats six months ago, no commentary, no reactions, no jumping in to smooth things over, just to see who would notice my absence, and the silence taught me something I had been working hard not to know for about twenty years

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Lachlan Brown @ Silicon Canals · 05/03/2026 09:38 EDT

I went silent in my family group chat for six months as a quiet experiment. Two people out of fourteen noticed. Here's what the silence revealed about the difference between being needed and being known. Read more ›

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I’m 44 and I noticed last month that I have been turning down invitations not because I don’t want to go, but because saying yes used to mean rearranging my life around someone else’s plan, and I’m still flinching at a contract nobody is asking me to sign anymore

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Justin Brown @ Silicon Canals · 05/03/2026 21:12 EDT

I kept declining invitations I actually wanted to accept. Then I noticed the reflex was protecting me from a deal nobody was offering — a contract I'd signed in childhood that had quietly expired without my body being told. Read more ›

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The people who keep every receipt, every warranty card, and every old utility bill in a labeled folder aren’t being uptight, they grew up watching adults get cornered by paperwork they couldn’t produce, and the folder is the version of safety they could build with their own hands

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Lachlan Brown @ Silicon Canals · 05/03/2026 22:13 EDT

Hyper-organised paper-keepers are usually misread as anxious or controlling. The truth is quieter: they watched an adult get cornered by paperwork once, and the folder is the version of safety a child could build with their own hands. Read more ›

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Quote by Voltaire: “Doubt is an uncomfortable condition, but certainty is a ridiculous one”

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Daniel Moran @ Silicon Canals · 05/04/2026 00:50 EDT

I had a friend in New York, years ago, who was certain about everything. I mean everything. The right way to make eggs. The correct decade for jazz. Which neighborhoods were finished and which were ascendant. Whether a particular novelist was overrated. Whether your relationship was going to work out. He delivered these verdicts the ... Read more Read more ›

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